May 17, 2008
Thanks to Kate Olson for bringing this to my attention: Barbara Kingsolver’s commencement address this year at Duke, the eminent author of The Poisonwood Bible and Animal, Vegetable, Miracle. I am as grateful for this speech as if I was in my cap and gown in the audience: it addresses nearly everything that has been nesting in my brain this year, and nestling its way ever so slowly into my concepts for English curriculum.
Quote:
As you leave here, remember what you loved most in this place. Not Orgo 2, I’m guessing, or the crazed squirrels or even the bulk cereal in the Freshman Marketplace. I mean the way you lived, in close and continuous contact. This is an ancient human social construct that once was common in this land. We called it a community. We lived among our villagers, depending on them for what we needed. If we had a problem, we did not discuss it over the phone with someone in Bubaneshwar. We went to a neighbor. We acquired food from farmers. We listened to music in groups, in churches or on front porches. We danced. We participated. Even when there was no money in it. Community is our native state. You play hardest for a hometown crowd. You become your best self. You know joy. This is not a guess, there is evidence. The scholars who study social well-being can put it on charts and graphs. In the last 30 years our material wealth has increased in this country, but our self-described happiness has steadily declined. Elsewhere, the people who consider themselves very happy are not in the very poorest nations, as you might guess, nor in the very richest. The winners are Mexico, Ireland, Puerto Rico, the kinds of places we identify with extended family, noisy villages, a lot of dancing. The happiest people are the ones with the most community.”
Read it. Read every glowing word.
May 17th, 2008 at 4:15 pm
I’m so happy that you liked the speech as much as I did - I love Barbara Kingsolver and couldn’t believe my luck when my brother passed that on to me! I would never have known about it otherwise.
May 17th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
@Kate: Big Kingsolver fan. Prodigal Summer is another lovely one.
And by the way, I don’t know if dissertations trump creating your own job.
May 17th, 2008 at 5:36 pm
Glad I wasn’t there - it would have been a couple of tissues speech for me! But how true the comments on community?
Just yesterday I was feeling blue as blue and very nearly talked myself out of going to a church group progressive dinner last night.
Why?
Oh well the excuses were abundant; cold weather, not my own church, really not feeling like making small talk, knowing that my friends who would be there would want to talk about what was making me blue…
We went. We ate good home-cooked food, we laughed, we met new people who were genuinely interested in getting to know us, we were part of a community of people who opened their homes to us and shared their evening.
We discovered threads of commonality and a warmth of friendliness that has - despite the howling wind and weak sunshine this morning - warmed me to the core and set the blues at bay.
I have new recipes, new books and movies to share … who was it that said “nothing ventured, nothing gained”?
It was a timely reminder to me that my participation in life is as part of a number of a number of different communities, both actual and virtual…anyone want a copy of a recipe for the most divine old-fashioned lemon meringue pie??